People can drift apart sometimes and become different people. Take this into account when also considering the thought that maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship with someone who is avoiding you and treats you like this. In the scheme of things, there are plenty of fish in the sea and someone who will treat you right. As hard as it is, it seems like he has lost interest and this can be due to many things, lifestyles, friends etc. Find someone who respects you for who you are.

So what exactly is the attraction? Why do you want a guy who clearly doesn’t want you?
You already know the answer: dump him today and find someone who will give you what you want emotionally. It sounds like he has already made this decision and just hasn’t said it clearly to you.

Just so yall know, this is my first “weigh in”.. And I have a lot to say, so.. Sorry in advance for the length!

I half agree with “allie”.. You shouldn’t be with this guy. First of all (please correct me/dont be offended if im wrong), From your post it seems to me that you are fairly young, so keep in mind that most people dont find “THE ONE” straight out of the gate. Also-and you might find this kinda rude, but know I say this for your own good in the long run- most men don’t like woman who come off too needy or who smother them. (i dont know you, so its all speculation.. No need to be offended if you think im wrong because really im just taking a less-than-educated guess, based on little info). Basically, you say he doesn’t respect your feelings or care about you.. He might just feel like youve shared your same feelings over and over and at some point he just didnt know how to react, or didnt feel he needed to. He also might not be answering your calls or replying to your messages because either he thinks itll just be more talking about your feelings, or you call/text him so much that he feels smothered.. Or both. Honestly sweetheart, from what you posted, I think your boyfriend is trying to push you away, and he has probably moved on. A lot of men don’t have the stones to just tell you flat out they are done with a relationship.. Sometimes they will just treat you like crap until you get the message (and that can be super hard if youve been with them for awhile, or you developed strong feelings for them).

Here’s my advice:

It might be really hard to do.. But you need to come to terms with the fact that this guy is about as good for you as arsenic/rat poison. You should let him go. Id be willing to bet that if you stop calling/texting him, you might just find that you are the only one putting in a whole lot of efforts.. And really, who wants to be with someone who doesnt care enough to even talk to them?

I promise you- guaranteed or your money back!- that this guy isn’t worth your time.. I promise you that there are a lot of guys out there that are willing to give you the love, respect, and attention that you want and deserve.. So the sooner you ditch THIS guy, the sooner youll have the opportunity to find someone who is everything you want- and more importantly- someone who will love you for exactly who/how you are:)

But…

After you ditch this jerk- but before you start trying to find “THE ONE”.. One last piece of advice-

It might be a good idea for you to have a talk with yourself. Analyze yourself- the good AND the bad.. Like, “THIS what I like about me.. And THIS is what I would like to maybe change/do a little different..” If you know exactly who you are when going into a relationship, then when someone starts telling you, “you should change this/that..” You can say “I know exactly who I am, and I am happy with me.. I would like it if you would respect and accept that.. But if you cant, then maybe you need to take a look inside yourself and see what youd like to change about YOU before you start asking others to change”. Basically what im trying to say is:

A.) Sweetheart, please do yourself a huge favor and get rid of this guy!
B.) Figure out who you are- love the good, try and change what YOU (nobody else!) Dont like. Stay true to yourself always! take a long look at yourself inside, and before trying to enter into a new relationship, make sure you know yourself and are happy enough with “you”, that if anybody ever tried to tell you to change.. That youd have the confidence to tell them youre happy with who you are already, and if they dont like it, they can leave!
C.) Figure out what youre looking for in a guy and what you want in a relationship. Also, decide what compromises youd be willing to make, as well as what you just WONT stand for! (like.. Oh idk.. Maybe a guy who is a selfish egomaniac!)..

You might just find that, down the line, youll end up much happier.. Plus, if you end up in a similar situation with someone else, it might not be as hard on you because you will already have the skills to deal with it all, and youll be ok with ending things because youll see that you are more important to you than he is!

I wish you all the best, and good luck! More than all else- I hope you find the strength to find someone who deserves all the love you have to give them, and shows you love and respect in turn!