Uncompassionate/unempathetic husband

Mate 1

My husband of 7 years has lost his compassion & empathy for me and our (my biological children). He is tough love all the way. His change in manner makes me and the children feel we can’t do anything right. He constantly tells us he loves us and can’t live without us but I need my husband to have real compassion & empathy in certain situations. I am not physically attracted to his tough love personality. I have talked to him about this multiple times and it always ends up with it being my fault he is the way he is. I am intelligent, bubbly, friendly and kind towards others. He is like a stone most of the time. When we are alone, he is intelligent and fun to be around. Around others, the stone appears. I don’t want to give up on this man because he used to have it in him.

Mate 2

“My wife made me the way I am. She doesn’t have sex with me as often as I want and I get frustrated. I want my wife back.” (these are his words quote unquote)

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	Ingrid Stop being overly sensitive and have sex with your husband. 20 days ago
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	Marty I get it… your both not able to deal with separating, and have too much codependency to part the red sea like Moses… I suggest you both join ashley madison dot com, and move forward, ASAP. 20 days ago
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“my wife made me this way….she won’t have sex with me as much as I want”. Mam, what he used to have in him was an act or he truly feels that punishment for not having enough sex warrants his behavior. I was married to one like him except it was the opposite…he was stone to me but to others the kind blue-eyed, blonde haired sweetheart. He tried to kill me, he also took a police officer’s weapon and fired it in a group of people at a party. I’m sorry but I wouldn’t have sex with your husband either. It is a major turn-off to be told you cant do anything right…and to let this be done to your kids…unconsionable on your part. Do you want them growing up to be like him? They will if you stay. I experienced it first hand…after we were married. i don’t know what your financial situation is, it seems like it always comes down to that, but I would not stay with a man that belittled me or my children. He is not going to change no matter how much sex you have with him. the first time you are tired or don’t feel like it…the stone and cruel man will be back

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