Ok, I am a woman and I don’t go through my guy’s phone so that is a cop out excuse. It may seem innocent to you, but to him it shows that you don’t trust him (and after two years, that’s a slap in the face). Guys see your actions for what it is; you should be respectful of each other and not cross those personal boundaries because of curiosity or boredom.

When it is a serious relationship, why do you need privacy? A serious relationship means an “open book”, there should be nothing to hide and no secrets. If my husband wants to look at my phone, then I want him to feel reassured that there is nothing to worry about. I think even most people can go through times of doubt when they need reassurance. If you have nothing to hide then you shouldn’t mind your partner feeling better.

While it may be “normal” for some women (and men) I don’t think it’s a GOOD thing at all. It does demonstrate a lack of trust and at the very LEAST a lack of respect for the mate’s privacy. Have I done it before? YES. Would I do it again? NO! When you look for trouble, you usually find it. And if someone is looking for trouble and they don’t find it, their minds can twist it around and TURN something innocent into something.

Yeah going through a guys phone is the equivelent of him going through your purse. It shows a huge lack of trust. I thought girls were big into communicating? If you wanted to know what he has been up to why dont you call him? Going to try and crack his email password, and start going through that next time you are “bored”?

As a girl, I can say that going through your boyfriend’s phone isn’t normal. I’ve never done that. And the only time I thought about doing that is when I thought my ex was cheating on me and he left his phone in my room. But I respected him enough to not to do that. Going through some one’s phone is never innocent and means that you don’t trust them.

My experience with it is once a cheater/player always a cheater/player and if your not guilty of anything why get mad about it unless you have something to hide!!! If you have nothing to hide then you have nothing to worry about or get mad over..And besides it is not like you men don’t go threw our purse or diary..so really

No it is not right to go thru your partners phone. BUT if there starts to be a change in behavior & over protection of the phone & maybe late nite calls, absolutely!!!! I just got out of a 2 1/2 yr relationship & found out that he had been cheating on me this whole time. When I went thru his phone I found conversations/ naked picture msgs w/ many women that were very inappropriate. I have no problem giving my partner open access to my stuff. But when someone “locks” their phone & has suspicious behavior, ABSOLUTELY a woman has every right, because she will prolly find what she is looking for. Now with Facebook & Myspace & emails there are plenty of opportunities for infidelity. It’s sad really!!!!

So as bad as it might be a lot of woman go through their mans phone. You just didn’t find your other girlfriends doing it but I am sure when you left the room to take out the trash or shower they looked. I don’t think it has that much to do with trust rather than more to do with them being insecure with themselves. And worrying that there may arise a time when you met someone so they just have to make sure they are still the only one. So I think if women are told more frequently how great they are they begin to feel more stable. And shouldn’t feel a need to invade someone else’s privacy.

Well, all that I can elaborate on what I said earlier, is that in the natural I do not rifle through any of my past relationship cell or email, nor care to. If I don’t feel confident with the guy that I am with, on being monogamous and honest, as we had probably already discussed and made an agreement on, and are in a serious relationship of “2 years”, I will just end the relationship, if it does not feel right. There are only 2 reasons that would make me suspicious, first is because he really is cheating and showing signs, or we are in the relationship with different goals, or just do not feel the same about each other = bad match. Normally people who are together that long period of time should be in a totally exclusive, committed relationship with a common goal. If in 2 years you are not ready for that, then I would say, it is not meant to last. At my age and experience, one should know exactly who is the best partner and exactly what your needs are and if the other can or cannot meet them or vice versa, there is not need to continue, keep it as friends. Nice to be my age, no B.S here !

Might as well stalk the guy! Checking his phone just destroys trust in your relationship.